There was a time in my life when everything felt both out of control and incredibly urgent

There was a time in my life when everything felt both out of control and incredibly urgent.

All things considered, my life at the time was pretty good on paper:

✅ Physical health

✅ Married with a beautiful home

✅ Two full time jobs with benefits

✅ Money to save and go on vacations

But yet I ruminated and I worried.

• What if one of us loses our job?

• What if the houses catches on fire?

• What if I get in an accident and lose my health?

Even the thought of a gray hair or wrinkle would throw me into a tailspin (I fretted: "should I make an appointment for botox? or maybe plastic surgery?" 🤨).

It took losing all of that stuff on paper to realize my control was completely misplaced and that my default approach (fear and worry) actually didn't help.

This was a hard lesson for a type A project manager who thrived on "perfection" and, admittedly, controlling tactics.

As it turns out, I learned the list of things I can control is quite short, yet powerful:

⭐ My thoughts.

⭐ My actions.

⭐ The values I hold.

⭐ And where I choose to place my trust.

I may not be able to control every single outcome, but I can control how I feel about them. I can control how I react. I can control if I want to use my experiences for growth or for negativity.

I've learned this mindset is a choice. And while it's work to check myself to make sure I don't fall back into my old patterns, it's worth it.

And I can truly say, life is so much more enjoyable these days.

It's better when you let go. 💫

❓ Do you have experience with control and letting go?

How are you are working on it?